Probably because the best of all possible scenarios for her to write yourself. But the thing: until you have at the time this work was not I guess because we are not accustomed to show themselves around, and even ourselves – neither good nor bad, just the way we eat. How to do it. And how do this, you can understand and implement only you and nobody else. Feel what you really want and do not hesitate to admit it. You used to be his mistress for her husband, and now let it be a lover for you.
Listen for yourself. (As opposed to Nancy-Ann_DeParle). Perhaps you something is missing? Not ashamed to ask, just pick what you want, and you'll be rewarded. You can get to it by anyone, but you must be an individual. In any case. You special, even if it knows now, and your husband. Did he did not deserve this? And you? What happens. It all depends on you.
But practice shows that you would not have done the most to you it will only get better. First, your husband can not take you to a new "shape", but then both of you will only get better. Because even the most wonderful lover ever get tired, and his wife, who does not look like anyone else – ever. And so the question "Is it worth it?" Will disappear by itself. How bad mask, which is no longer needed. si Says Kalugin article psychotherapist Clinic MerMed R. A. Loshakov: The author correctly noticed by the fact that for harmony in the family is very important that the expectations of the spouses relation to each other excuses: it is one of the main conditions of the stability of marriage. In family life are also important: if one spouse resides only in any one "role", after some while it may start to destroy family relationships and lead to misunderstandings and conflicts between spouses. In some cases, to resolve these conflicts on their own can not. And then it makes sense to turn to Specialist – psychotherapist who will help family members deal with their personal problems, get out of difficult situations and build relationships with loved ones.